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Thursday, January 6, 2011

Paradoxes and Oxymorons


Happy New Year!
Wish all of you the best for the year to come!
I, myself, have sworn to make this year a better one than the last =)

A fellow blogger, Pygar, of the great blog "A Kind Dom" wrote in his last post about D/s and tenderness.
The blogs name is in it self, of course, a paradox. Well, a Gentle Dom would be even more so I guess.

This got me thinking though; Isn't all parts of the term BDSM very much paradoxal and full of oxymorons? Sadism needs to be carried out with a harsh tenderness and received with pleasurable pain, Dominance with firm consideration. Discipline to be executed out of care and received with greatfullness.
Atleast in my eyes this is how it should be applied. Sadism without the tender touch inbetween strokes and the giving of a kind and comforting gesture afterwards -would that not just be a beating, rather than the give and take of pleasure?

Master and I had a conversation about some of this the other day. How He found it paradoxal that He "like women and [also] like the idea of them having pain". I replied "I like nice men, and I enjoy them giving me pain." ; ) And isn't that more or less the definition of S&M? The paradoxal view of the person vs the action, and the oxymoronic feelings, like pleasurable pain for instance, that are produced?

Pygar also writes: "Perhaps there is more need for true caring and comforting in such a [BDSM] relationship than in other relationships." And I really, after some consideration, really believe that.

This is it for this time!
Written by a strong-minded submissive owned by a caring-Dom  = )

Take care of yourselves and eachother.

With love,


blossom said...


i just wanted to say welcome to the lovely dark and delicious world of BDSM.


January 9, 2011 at 1:21 PM
Unknown said...

thank you ls :)

January 9, 2011 at 2:40 PM

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