Sunday, March 13, 2011
The difference in submission
I was pondering this in a blogpost to my Master on His personal blog a while ago.
I was saying how often I don't feel submissive in my actions. I do things out of submission, but don't necessarily feel submissive doing them.
Does this make the action any less significant? Is it the doing or the feeling behind the action that is of importance? Does it have any bearing on my submission either way?With love,
2 comments:
You make a fascinating distinction.
March 17, 2011 at 12:01 AMDoing something from submission
but
not feeling submissive doing it.
You worry if it has a bearing on your submission. I think you are asking for responses from people who understand the nature and feeling of submission first hand - I don't have that so can only respond from the perspective of a Dom.
No - of course it does not make it less significant. You have carried out the action. You have been submissive.
But ...
From my perspective - and I sense from yours as well - the whole point for you in carrying out a submissive action is to feel submissive. Is that not why you are a sub? To gain fulfilment from submissive acts? To feel submissive as a result.
I would want my sub to feel submissive through the action. Otherwise what is the point? I know some Doms may say "it isn't about her it is about me" and not care about her feelings as long as the submission is there.
However I feel that is a stereotype and that most Doms would be eager to help their sub experience submissive feelings while carrying out submissive acts.
So if this becomes a problem for you I think you should discuss it with your Master. Surely he has an interest in you feeling submissive as well as being submissive.
P xx
Hi Pygar! Always lovely to hear from you :) Now I wrote this very (very!) long reply to you -but to not set a record in writing the longest comment ever in ones own blog *LOL*, I decided to make it into a new post.
March 17, 2011 at 1:38 AMWhat I can say shortly is that I am glad I wrote this post, and had that conversation with Master; it gave me a lot of realizations.
You brought up some really good points though, points I think are applicable to anyone and everyone, so thank you! :)
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