Like something? Catch it!

Monday, June 4, 2012


When Sir and i first got together i asked for some rules. I need this to know what's expected of me and to 
know what line to hold.

This was in the end of  2010  and they looked like this:
(copied from our past private blog)


  1. melinda is written with a small m in the context of our relation
  2. melinda strives to be a good mum to her daughter
  3. melinda commits to keep the momentum of her study going
  4. melinda will disclose any non-conformance to these guidelines or special instructions on a daily basis without the need to be asked to
  5. melinda will keep her body in good shape and will exercise on a daily basis. Her target weight is below 55Kg. She will measure her weight and body size daily and keep a log in a special page of her blog
  6. melinda will not allow herself to sit aimlessly around and lose control of the money she needs to fulfil her commitments
  7. melinda will keep her room and the room of her daughter tidy and clean
  8. melinda strives to masturbate on a daily basis. In any case she will tell her owner on a daily basis how many times she has masturbated, how many orgasms she had and if she penetrated her vagina. For the moment there is no maximum to the amount of time she spends masturbating, nor for the amount of orgasms she has.
  9. melinda will inform her owner about her upcoming period,and will keep him informed about the status regarding her period until it is over.
  10. melinda shall be naked during chat. She must inform her owner if she is unable to comply, or if she wants to be dressed. The latter she must justify
  11. melinda will keep her legs spread when ever possible during chat
  12. melinda will maintain a nipple erection during chat. She will disclose if this is causing problems
  13. melinda will maintain a hairless pussy, and remove the hair by pulling it out, of which she will keep a photo report in her blog
  14. melinda will collaborate in being a lust object and will perform acts of sexual nature on her body for the benefit and enrichment of her owner. She is allowed to derive pleasure from those activities
  15. melinda will answer personal questions about herself to her owner. She understands he has the right to know all there is to know about her. She has a limited amount of taboos at her disposal that she can call on in exceptional circumstances, but a justification is always required
  16. melinda understands she may be punished if her owner believes she deserves it
  17. melinda will grant her owner's requests for the clothes she wears
  18. melinda's tits are for the benefit of her owner
  19. melinda's vagina shall be penetrated with whatever her owner requests. She is allowed to argue against a request, but not to refuse
  20. melinda will tolerate reasonable levels of physical pain as part of her D/s relation
  21. melinda is allowed to ask questions to her owner
  22. melinda commits to tell her owner when she is in distress
  23. melinda must ask permission before she can make any changes to her hairstyle
  24. melinda understands that this list may change without prior notice and agrees within reason to the amendments
  25. melinda is responsible to asses her own safety, and must disobey her owner's request that put her safety or health at risk. She must disclose safety concerns.

A lot of them would be redundant now. A lot were forgotten about after awhile, some are still in place, like 1-5. Number 8 has turned into the opposite were i have to ask permission to masturbate/cum.
Some of them will always be there, like for example number 1 and 25.

Kind of funny to look back and see how certain things are just taken for granted now, they've become second nature. I can't help but wonder how a list would look like today. A lot has changed in the year and a half that has passed since then.

With love,


melinda Sweetgirl said...

messing with the templates has it's downsides; my "pages" don't work. So i have to publish it as a post so that i can link from it. This post will be the "Rules" button at the top of the blog.
Everything has it's drawbacks. Maybe i'll learn how to fix it on the webdesign course =P

June 4, 2012 at 3:44 PM
Elder said...

We should have a look at those rules again and revamp those that are applicable and strike those that are obsolete.
It is true what you say: Initially you need the rules as guide lines, but later you apply them automatically and perhaps ignore some of them all together.

a bit like traffic rules. When you start to drive you know them all. But when you have driven for 20 years you just do what makes sense and comply automatically with most of the rules.

June 5, 2012 at 12:40 AM
melinda Sweetgirl said...


June 5, 2012 at 12:48 AM
mostly mouse said...

At one time we had a couple hundred it should be said many of them Omega has used for his sub/slaves/bottoms forever! Some were added specifically for mouse, some were altered.

Eventually all but a few were more or less eliminated.

So yes, the evolution of rules can be fascinating.


June 6, 2012 at 12:57 AM
melinda Sweetgirl said...

a couple hundred?! (please tell me that's a gross exaggeration -jeez for remembering that!)

June 7, 2012 at 1:10 AM
Anonymous said...

it is so true that rules evolve over time as ttwd deveopls. But it is always good to look back at them, re-evaluate and like to do that about every 6 months. Something to talk about when my arm is mended. Great post my friend.
love kiwi xxx

June 11, 2012 at 10:44 PM
melinda Sweetgirl said...

thank you kiwi, well said :)

June 12, 2012 at 12:39 AM

Reading to keep an eye on

Reading to keep an eye on

©2009 - 2013 My submissive journey | Template by TNB modified by melinda Sweetgirl