Sunday, August 14, 2011
Yes Sir | Yes Master | or Yes Daddy?
I know Master is gonna write about this -so I figured I'd get there first! Hehehe....
No, but seriously this is sparked from a conversation I had with Kitty. We talked about titles, most specifically Master/Sir/Daddy and the different preferences we and subsequently our partners have.
I know Master will write about the differences between sub vs. slave, I'm not gonna go there! (I'll leave the difficult one to Him =p )
I can only think that it is our perception of what the titles means, what we associate them with, that gives us preference or dislike for them.
Which title do you prefer to put on yourself? What title does your partner wish to be called by? Is there a title that you like but they don't? Is the title important to you?
Why?
P.S. These questions are directed at anyone and everyone, be it Dom/me, Master/Mistress, Daddy, sub/slave/slut/wife/girl and so on.....
Whether you are in a M/s, D/s, Dd, Poly or any other constellation of relationship.
I'm curious about them all!
With love,
9 comments:
I use 'Sir'. My Dom has actually requested to for me to call him Sir, and that suits me very well, because it's what I am most comfortable with.
August 16, 2011 at 1:43 AMI don't like using 'Daddy', because I'm not comfortable with that dynamic, and it squicks me a bit. It used to bother me much more than it does now, so perhaps TTWD and reading everyone's blogs has had me open up a bit.
I don't use Master because I'm just not comfortable with it yet. There's something psychological with it, and I guess I'm not prepared to give EVERYTHING... not just yet?
here is link to my blog in which you will propably find answer to your question
August 16, 2011 at 10:20 AMhttp://vulnerablesubmissive.blogspot.com/2011/03/29-is-there-other-name-you-want-to-call.html
all the best for you and your Dominant! and keep writing:)
Lea: I too had issues with Daddy before, I think because I associated it with ageplay, or rather 'babyplay' as I call it. I don't want to play a little girl as in behaving like one, but I do feel like a girl (does that make sense? I mean i can feel small and vulnerable and 'lost' it's not that i feel i wanna sit in a sandbox and play or so). Now I actually kinda like the term. Master don't.
August 16, 2011 at 11:48 AMI like Sir too, I guess it's what I use most. I use Master too (as you see), mostly in writing (and ehum yeah when one has been especially bad), well that and when I am particularly slutty too *grins*
Giving "everything" comes with time -and IMHO, one can never give everything , because we are still individual humans. But I think we can give access to everything/the whole of ourselves.
And every dynamic grows, it is not static. Also the more the two of you get to know each other it will become more personally 'tailored' (now I don't know if your Dom is also your husband or so, in which case you already know each other, but it still applies to getting to know each other in your roles).
OK, now this became another essay of mine (far too common i'm afraid!)
Vulnerable: I'll certainly check out your blog, although i wasn't really wondering for myself, I was mostly curious about other people's ways.
=D
I prefer Daddy, though I didn't always. It once until I learned that it doesn't have to mean pretending to be a baby, ageplay, or playing in a sandbox - none of which I've ever done.
August 16, 2011 at 2:28 PMSir sounds a bit impersonal for me and Master - well there's a ton of reasons that moniker would not work for me.
Ultimately, one uses or identifies with whatever suits the two people involved.
I say yes dear a lot, and have used Sir a few times while being punished. He has not asked me to call him that though.
August 16, 2011 at 5:53 PMSweet girl,
August 17, 2011 at 12:58 AMI think the ageplay or babyplay thing is the same reason why I'm not comfortable with it. I really resonated with the rest of your response. As time goes on I do want to feel like a girl. I want to be small, and vulnerable and innocent. The girl to his Dirty Old Man, without it getting too gross.
I liked what you said about having access to everything. Access is doable.
My DOM is not my husband. Perhaps with time that will develop, but for now, we're in a serious relationship, and I'm pleased with that. : )
~Lea
I call him Daddy. Well, that's what I call him in front of everybody because it doesn't seem strange to others to hear me call him that. He is, after all, a Daddy ;-) However, we are not into age play or anything like that. I'm still trying to introduce him into the D/s lifestyle and he probably doesn't even know what age play is. However, I do have a thing for older men SOOO, it kind of has a double meaning for me.
August 31, 2011 at 6:54 AMHe would prefer I call him 'my liege' or 'my lourde' and I do so mostly when I am really trying to please him. Again, he is so brand new to this world and he always says he's joking when he tells me to call him that but little does he know it pleases me greatly to call him that and know in my heart why I am.
omg ha ha ha ha
March 22, 2015 at 11:58 PMthanks for sharing boss
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